Skullxcrow9
•Handling Rejection
June 14, 2026
Vent
I’m so done with this bullshit!
Alright so I\'m a femcel and I saw this guy in a discord sever and well I thought he looked cute, and so I stupidly decided to send him a friend request, and I woke up the next day to see he accepted which I was ecstatic about, I sent him a message saying stuff about how we had stuff in common and basically we became friends, I\'d talk to him everyday, one day I told him I liked him and he said \"oh I think things could work out between us\" and just bullshit like that, he later told me the next day that the day before I confessed he told a girl he liked her and I was upset since I was tired of being people\'s last resorts, but I stupidly said okay, she took WEEKS to respond to him and said no since she was depressed which he later vented to me about which is so annoying cause I am too but I never get pity so why should she! Just because she\'s pretty than me doesn\'t mean I shouldn\'t matter! And he said he\'d than date me, a day later what do I see in his bio, \"I LOVE SAMI\" which I was like who the fuck is Sami, amd so I talked to him about it and turns out he got another fucking girlfriend since he was so desperate to not have to date me! And I told him we couldn\'t be friends anymore and he got mad and said \"If you\'re gonna act like that than I\'m glad I didn\'t choose you!\" Which is fucking stupid cause its like he except me to be the same level of mature as he is even though he\'s older than me! Which if your wondering why I wanted to date him knowing he was older than me it\'s because of a trauma response I have from being groomed when I was 7 by a 15 year old, and thats kinda it, I just don\'t have anyone else to talk to this about an I feel fucking stupid for getting my hopes up and thinking for even a second anyone could want me!
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5 replies
Skullxcrow9
June 14, 2026
I just realized my spelling mistake don\'t mind that I\'m dyslexic.
hchaddt
July 1, 2026
femcels doesnt exist
Mori20987
July 27, 2026
Yeah,aint gona lie,thats a kick in the feels,had a similar experience,was friends with this one girl over discord for a decent stretch and there was kinda something,but all came crashing down when a friend passed away,turned out he had confessed to her and he knew i liked her,but the whole thing just kinda blew up,and at the end of the day,i lost her,my friend and everyone else,my advice
Take a minute,focus on yourself and remember that as bad as these things get they do get better,takes some time,but it does
Mori20987
July 27, 2026
Was in a similar situation and it cost me my discord,after a while it wont hurt any less but ima guess your better off
John Legend
August 4, 2026
You’re not stupid for getting your hopes up. He told you that things could work between you, then treated you like a backup option while pursuing other people. Anyone would feel hurt, embarrassed, and angry after that. Ending the friendship was a completely reasonable boundary, and his nasty response only showed that he wasn’t handling the situation with much maturity or care.
That said, Sami and the first girl aren’t the real problem here. Her being pretty or depressed doesn’t mean your pain matters less, and she didn’t take anything away from you. He was the one making promises and choices, so the responsibility belongs with him.
Please also take the age difference seriously. What happened to you when you were seven was not your fault, and it makes sense that it could affect what feels familiar or attractive now. But a trauma response doesn’t mean dating older people is safe or good for you. Someone older should be especially careful about boundaries—not expect you to manage the situation like an adult while benefiting from your attachment.
For now, I’d block or mute him, stop checking his bio, and give yourself some distance from that server if being there keeps reopening the wound. Talk to someone safe about the grooming and how it still affects you—a trusted adult, counselor, therapist, or support service. You deserve help processing it instead of having to carry it alone.
And please don’t turn this one guy’s behavior into proof that nobody could ever want you. He didn’t reject your worth; he handled your feelings badly. Being chosen by someone who treats you as an option wouldn’t have healed the way you feel about yourself anyway. You deserve someone who is clear, consistent, age-appropriate, and genuinely excited to be with you—not someone who makes you compete for basic respect.